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How Can I Learn to Control My Tongue?

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Dear Jennifer,

I just completed your Bible study Me, Myself and Lies.  It was extremely rewarding and beneficial to me.  I just have one question.  First, a little background on me.  I have been very blessed.  I was raised in church by great parents and married a great Christian man and have two daughters.

I try so diligently to lead a devout Christian life in my job.  Most people at my job do not lead Christian lifestyles, so I feel I have to work extremely hard to lead by example.  I have one serious problem that I really have trouble keeping under control, and that is my mouth.  I can’t keep anything a secret.  I pray everyday that God will help me keep my mouth shut.

I have really been very good all year until now.  I overheard something about my boss that involved my co-workers, and we were discussing it before work one morning.  Later, somehow the boss heard about it and confronted me in front of my peers.  Very embarrassing.  I do not understand why I always get caught.  Everyone was discussing it, but he only heard that it was me.  It ruined my entire Christmas vacation and I am in deep depression.

What do you do if you have these bad thoughts in your thought closet and they are warranted?  I am truly in the wrong and I should not be gossiping.  I do not want to be known as a gossip.  I want to be able to keep my mouth shut.  The only thing I know to do is to isolate myself at work and just stay to myself.  I do not have any good feelings in my thought closet at all now about myself.

-Anonymous-

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What Do You Do When Depression Tries to Take Over?

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Dear Jennifer,

I have written to you before, but that was about two years ago.  At that time in June, I lost my eyesight in my right eye do to a blood clot going to the retina and exploding it.  They called it a main retina occlusion.  The doctors say there is nothing they can do to reconstruct it, and now my left eye is getting blurry.

I was in bed for a year and a half due to depression.  I then put the armor on more.  I listened to healing tapes and prayed with my prayer partner and best friend.  Two months ago I was getting the point…then I seemed to get knocked down again with the flu, which in turn pushed me back in bed and back into depression.  How do you do it?  You’re blind every day and yet you keep working and giving a smile with your songs and testimonies.

Love, Pam

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How Can I be Fearfully and Wonderfully Made If I Have a Birth Defect?

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Dear Jennifer,
A friend, who has a physical defect from birth, recently asked me, “How can I say I am fearfully and wonderfully made?”  She said that she knows that God is perfect but doesn’t understand why He made her imperfectly, and according to her understanding of this verse in Psalm 139:14, by design.  She went on to say that it has caused her a life of heartache and trouble with people being especially cruel.  She needs new perspective.  My heart goes out to her as I have watched this trouble going along with her wherever she goes. Can you offer some new insight or direction?  She knows I’m writing to you, by the way.
Yours in Christ, Sue

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Is It Wrong to Worry About Everything?

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Dear Jennifer,
I have a friend who calls me in the evenings and talks ’til about 11:30 PM each night.  She is a worrier and I keep telling her it is wrong to worry about everything.  When I have a problem, I just talk to God about it and then place it in His hands and let Him take care of it.  I tell her this but she cannot do this.  What can I do to help her understand?
Barbara

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What Can I Do to Reinforce God’s Word?

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Dear Jennifer,

What can I do to reinforce God’s Word? I started your Bible study Fingerprints of God. I will do the homework and share in the study group, only to walk out of class and not be able to recall it.  I bought your book yesterday, Self Talk, Soul Talk, and I read in it exactly what happens to me–the enemy of my mind robs the seed that was sown, and then I begin to believe the word of how I will never be able to retain it. I have beaten myself up many times over this same issue.  My heart’s desire is to live out what God’s Word teaches. I clean out the closet only to realize the junk has overtaken the Word. Help!  I’m feeling defeated.

Janice

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Are Feelings Supposed to Serve and Strengthen Us?

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Dear Jennifer,

I am facilitating a small group of 4 other women through the MM&L study.  It is FANTASTIC!  Thank you for the work you did to put it together. We are all benefiting so much from all there is to learn.

We all were confused by your statement that “feelings are supposed to serve and strengthen us.”  What do you mean by that?  We get how the good emotions can strengthen us, but we really didn’t understand how our feelings are supposed to serve us.

Sincerely, Jenn

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